Dear Ex-Wife,
Let’s tell the truth today, shall we?
Real healing is not pretty.
It is not curated for social media.
It doesn’t come wrapped in filters or spoken in soft tones.
It is raw.
It is gritty.
It is often exhausting—and most days, it’s a war between who you were, who you are now, and who you’re becoming.
But let me say this with deep love and unshakable conviction:
You deserve to be healed. You deserve to be whole. And you will never be either if you’re still pretending you’re over something that still has a grip on your heart.
Take off the mask.
Yes, that mask—the one you wear around friends and family that says, “I’m good. I’ve moved on. I’m just focused on me.” The one that lets you survive in public while you privately spiral in pain.
I wore it too.
And let me be expressly clear—I once stood where you stand. The woman who went through the divorce. The one who had to readjust her entire identity. The woman who smiled on the outside while grieving what felt like death on the inside. I know how it feels to look at your reflection and not recognize her anymore.
That’s why I’m writing to you.
Not as a critic, but as a sister.
Not with judgment, but with empathy.
Not to shame you, but to call you higher.
You may not want to admit it yet, but the truth is: you haven’t really let go. And if you’re honest, you’ve been waiting—hoping, praying—that somehow the story would reverse. That your ex-husband would wake up, realize he made a mistake, and come running back. But beloved, I urge you to stop waiting on resurrection for what God Himself has already called buried.
Let him go.
Let his new chapter begin—in peace. Not because you’re weak, but because you’re wise. Because freedom isn’t just something you hope for; it’s something you choose.
Be mindful of the voices you’re letting pour into your situation. Be wary of “prophetic” words that sound more like wishful thinking than God’s truth. Be vigilant about not letting people who couldn’t heal their own hearts guide you through yours.
Seek wise counsel.
The kind that doesn’t pacify your pain but points you back to the cross.
The kind that reminds you that healing doesn’t always feel good, but it always bears fruit.
The reality is, healing hurts—but it’s holy.
And on the other side of it is peace you didn’t think you could ever experience again. Joy that doesn’t depend on your relationship status. Confidence that doesn’t need comparison or validation.
You’ll know you’re truly healing when you can hear his name and your heart doesn’t sink.
When you can see a picture of them and not shrink inside.
When you’re no longer rehearsing what you would’ve said—because you’ve finally found the closure you were searching for…within yourself.
You can do this.
And better yet—you were born to.
Your next chapter is not waiting on him.
It’s waiting on you.
With love, truth, and deep hope for your healing,
Tracy-Ann
✨ A Final Word of Encouragement
Heavenly Father,
I lift up the woman who is still silently grieving.
The one whose smile masks sorrow.
I ask that You hold her through this process—firmly but gently.
Help her release every false hope, every haunting memory, and every ounce of regret.
Renew her mind. Restore her confidence. Redeem her heart.
Show her that there is beauty after brokenness and that her story doesn’t end here—it begins anew.
Amen.
📣 This letter is part of the ongoing “Dear Ex-Wife” series—authored for every woman navigating divorce, identity shifts, blended families, and the sacred process of becoming whole again. The full collection of letters will be released in my debut book Dear Ex-Wife: Messages of Healing & Hope on December 30, 2025. Stay connected, stay encouraged, and stay open to the healing you deserve.
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