Tracy-Ann Bullocks Writes

Posted by Tracy-Ann Bullocks | July 7, 2025

Why This Series Exists

Let me start by saying this: This series is not about bitterness, blame, or comparison. It’s about healing. It’s about reclaiming power after heartbreak. It’s about women—like you and me—who have had to rebuild from the ashes of what was.

Dear Ex-Wife was birthed from the deeply personal, often painful, but ultimately liberating journey I walked after divorce. For years, I wore the “strong Black woman” mask like armor. I smiled through my grief, dressed up my disappointment, and raised my children with the same excellence I gave to a man who no longer called me his wife.

But one day, I got tired of pretending.

I wanted to be whole—not just healed enough to function, but healed enough to flourish. And what I learned along the way is this: There’s another woman out there who needs to hear what I wish someone had told me.

If that’s you, sis—this is for you.

And as I prepare to release my debut book, “Dear Ex-Wife: Messages of Healing & Hope,” on December 30, 2025, I wanted to begin sharing some of the letters and lessons that shaped it. These words are written in love, drenched in truth, and dedicated to every woman trying to find herself after the marriage ends but life keeps going.

💔 Dear Ex-Wife,

Let me be expressly clear—I once stood where you stand.

I know how it feels to carry unanswered questions to bed. To relive old memories while pretending you’ve moved on. To wrestle with God about why something that was so sacred… ended so painfully.

I know the weight of having to co-parent while grieving the death of your forever. I know what it feels like to see your ex move on—and to feel like the life you dreamed of got handed to someone else.

And if no one has told you this: You’re not crazy for struggling to adjust.

You’re human. You’re hurting. And you’re doing the best you can.

I write these letters not from a pedestal, but from a place of identification. I’ve worn the best facades. I’ve shown up when I wanted to fall apart. But real healing began when I stopped trying to perform strength—and got serious about the work.

I had to face myself. I had to unlearn false narratives. I had to want to get unstuck more than I wanted to be right.

These letters are born from that place. Not from perfection, but from the desire to see you whole. To see you free. To see you living—not just surviving—after loss.

And I want to say this plainly: You can co-exist. You can show up to graduations, weddings, and family events without bitterness eating you alive. You can adjust to the new wife, new life, and new dynamic—without losing your dignity or your peace.

You don’t have to be friends. But you do have to choose respect. For yourself. For the space your ex now occupies. And for the children or memories you may still share.

This is the work. But sis, it’s so worth it.

🕊 A Prayer for You

Father,

I lift up every woman who reads this letter with tears in her eyes and tension in her heart. I ask that You would meet her in the space between pain and promise. Unclench her fists where she’s held on too tightly. Soften her heart where it’s become hardened. Give her the courage to accept what is—and the strength to release what was. Surround her with truth-tellers, comforters, and wise counsel. Remind her that she is not forgotten, forsaken, or unworthy. She is healing. She is growing. She is becoming whole.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Sis, you’re not alone. You’re not behind. And you are certainly not finished.

Until next time,
With love & light,
– Tracy-Ann

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📖 COMING SOON: Dear Ex-Wife: Messages of Healing & Hope

Mark your calendars for December 30, 2025—the date my new book releases worldwide. Get ready for a journey of grief, grace, growth… and glory.

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